7 Ways To Live With High Self-Esteem

Self-esteem means confidence and satisfaction in oneself. What you feel about yourself, it defines you are a High self-esteem person or of a Low self-esteem.

Having low self-esteem is a barrier to happy and satisfied life. Feeling inferior, feeling depressed, less or no decision taking ability, always need approval of others, mostly thinking I can’t.  These all are the symptoms of having a low self-image.

Success and self esteem  Success in personal and professional life depends on your behaviour and behaviour reflects what going on inside. You are what you were told to be since childhood. 

Do check your inner conversation what you think about you, people mostly compare with others and feel either jealous or delighted depending on others situation. This is what mostly learn from their surrounding.

Seven ways to live with high self-esteem:   

1.Be in-charge of your life:  When you don’t live in self-control. When anyone drives you according to his or her will, its really makes you feel desperate. Whether you are rich but if not living in self-control, its makes you feel unvaluable, unloved. Human love to control not to be controlled. 

Decide your purpose of life, make your plan and follow your own dream. Work on your abilities. When you achieve small things of your own, you feel important. Think about your taste, interest, likes,plans and demand from yourself to achieve it.

2. Don’t compare yourself with others: You can’t compare your phase A with someone’s phase Z. You are unique creation of God, think about you, you are different.

Mostly people deeply observe what they don’t have and more painful is what other’s have. You can control you and your life not others. 

Self-esteem rise when you feel good about you. There are many who don’t have personality, skills, blessings what you have. Live your life not others.

Learn new skills every year, meet new people, read inspiring books and blogs. This all would make you feel loved and blessed.

3. Turn up the volume on positive thoughts:  Write down things you admire most in you and read it daily. 

Turn your volume up while reading your qualities, when you would repeat it on and on,you will start feeling powerful inside. Learn something positive and productive daily. 

If you don’t value yourself, don’t expect it from others. Self-esteem is only in your control, let not others tell you who you are.

Whenever you feel negative, because you would feel. As We are born in a negative world, people mostly focus what Negative you have rather positive. 

Don’t get married to any negative feedback and commit yourself to grow and develop yourself not to prove anyone wrong but to raise your self-esteem and live an ideal life.

4. Spend time with people who help you to feel good about yourself:   Your peer group matters the most, if you are surrounded by people who think and talk negative about you. Soon you would start feeling unloved, unvaluable, awkward. 

Lie down with dogs and you come up with fleas. When you spend time with high values and goal oriented people it makes an impact on you.

Start spending time with those who are ambitious, dreamer, optimistic. Most important who are GOAL ORIENTED, Who inspire others take part in seminars, make new friends.

Tell others what you like about them, tell them what actually you like most in them. Everybody has something special want to be praised, when you do it in response they would admire you. 

5. Feel gratitude:  Feel gratitude for the things you have, you have a great family,your spouse and kids,healthy body, see and feel this beautiful world, most important you are human. You can do any miracle what anyone has done.

Feel gratitude for the things you have, soon you would start getting what you desire. You feel highest form of energy inside when you feel gratitude. 

When somebody admire you, help you whether its a small task, see deep into eyes and say thank you with pure energy. These feelings will make you a person of high values.

6. Achieve something: Just think about a moment when you did something, completed any important task, won a prize. You would have felt amazing. 

Life need momentum, when you are engaged and see yourself in active mode. It release Dopamine, you start feeling I CAN DO IT, I CAN MOVE AHEAD IN MY JOB AND RELATIONSHIP.

Take a small target, write your tasks list down of small-small targets. I do make my list like,Exercise for five minutes, Meditate for ten minutes, Read a book in this weekend, Write a blog this week 😊 Yes I am doing it now.

7. Build your character:  Character is not like weather which change all the time, its like climate which mostly not change.

Live with integrity, more important than your income. Be true to your words, when you tell truth, you will start feeling pride on yourself. You won’t need approval of others to live life the way you want.

Real Achievement is not what you earn, but THE PERSON YOU BECOME.

Live life with pride. Living is your right!

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Control those five minutes, avoid regret

Those Five Minutes Matters: 

Difference between happy and painful life is those five minutes. I am talking about those five minutes where people lose their self control.

Imagine you are driving a car and just for five minutes your car’s brake stop working. Outcome can be horrible even death is possible. In the same way, I am sharing few moments of life where you DO,SAY,ACT too bad (without brake). 

You can win the game or loss in those five minutes or fraction of seconds. ( I am using term five minutes because mostly people use this like Just five minutes😊) 

Those five minute moments to control: 

  1.When you wake up.. Start of the day matters most but Do you wake up when your alarm clock buzz at your set time like 4.30 am, 5.00 am or any time what you set. Mostly everybody knows the advantage of early wake ups. Its easy to do it for first one or two days because of excitement and motivation after that a big challenge rise.

 As its time to wake up a very strong excuse stand against your commitment “Lets sleep for more 5 minutes.” Mattress win over motivation.  That five minutes lasts in next one or two hours. Then as you get up late start regreting ohh I missed today but tomorrow I will. That tomorrow often not comes.

2.When you procrastinate..  I believe that procrastination is like a disease which is harmful for anyone dreams,life,health,wealth and happiness. It becomes a habbit without any reason. People even procrastinate to take bath, take lunch, paying any bill on time and it happen with important and urgent tasks for their life. MOSTLY EVERYBODY KNOWS IT.

 The biggest challenge is again “Those Five Minutes.” Procrastination is the thief of dreams. People make their own schedule of performing any task but don’t follow it. 

Time to work but Okay just rest for more five minutes, Time to read but okay just check facebook whatsapp for more five minutes, Time to exercise but okay just sleep for more five minutes. Tragedy is of these five minutes never complete in five minutes.

3. When you become angry..  The moment you become angry. Your thinking brain Neocortex shuts down. You stop thinking. All you have left then is your Paleocortex, your emotional brain which think in terms of fight or flight as you are angry.

You know one thing, “Its matter of only Those five minutes.” If in that moment you leave that place and calm down,relax think for sometime. Situation change and you would think differently. 

People talk rudely, hurt self and others, talk nonsense, fight. I have seen many people who are very sensible until they are angry. Sometimes it takes years to recover a mistake done in anger. Loosing temper often decrease your value and you start feeling low self-esteem. 

 If they had waited for five minutes to react they wouln’t have commited those mistakes. Husband hurts to wife, parents hurt their kids, many relationships break because of a five minutes reaction in anger. 

4. When you shop..  You should shop things which you need, You must not shop those things which don’t need.

But now a days because of shopping zones, markets are full of attractions. Normally people buy things which actually they don’t need. Spending makes you happy. Due to this most people are planning to work into their seventies because they don’t have enough money put aside so they can stop working.

Again the reason is “Those five minutes” when you feel attracted towards offers which actually you don’t need. I have seen people who go to market to take medicines but also purchase cosmetics and accessories. Its because of conditioned response. Its like temptations of shopping. Then heavy credit card loans instalments become cause of stress so avoid those five minutes and think before shopping anything, do I actually need it.

5. When you promise..  When you feel motivated and happy by anyones behaviour. Brain release Endorphins this is called nature’s happy drug. In that moment people often promise anything to anyone. 

Then they feel guilt as couldn’t keep their words. Again the reason is “Those five minutes” full of excitement and emotions. So think twice before promising anything. And always try to become true to your words which will raise your self-esteem.

How to control those five minutes:  

Self-control and Self-discipline are the key in it. Bad habbits are easy to form but hard to live with, good habbits are tough to form but easy to live with. 

Forming new habbit is a challenge to you. If you really want to change you have to built your character.  Character is your orginality what actually you are. Its not a role but responsibility. Character is doing something after that moment of excitement gone.

Commit yourself to avoid those five minutes idleness. 

Self-talk:  Stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself. Promise yourself. Repeat often I can do it, I will do it. If you win those five minutes, you will win the game. Will achieve what you want. 

Once I met the legend Brian tracy in delhi, I asked him what to do avoid procrastination, He told me that Self talk would play major role. Whenever you feel to procrastinate say loudly Do it now, Do it now. Trust me This works I personally have been using it and most of the successful leaders do.

Read something positive daily as you are reading this blog, read books, watch something productive daily like Ted talks or any of your favourite.

Surround yourself with people who are already doing what you want to do. Your Peer group plays vital role in your life.

Think twice before saying anything to anyone. People know you by your behaviour not what you feel. Don’t live anyone’s life, Be yourself.

Living is your right! 

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Do You Still Remember, Your New Year Resolution ?

Hello dear reader😊,

Do you remember the day, 1st of Jan 2017. The day when you were comitted and inspired to make some change in your life (of course positive change).

You thought on that day, okay 2016 gone but in this year 2017, I would not repeat my old mistakes and will achieve something. 

You were inspired, you worshiped GOD, woke up early. YOU TOOK SOME RESOLUTIONS like..

  • To loose weight
  • To earn more money
  • To wake up early
  • To start yoga/meditation
  • To learn new skills
  • To eat healthier
  • Don’t offend people
  • No more cursing
  • No more energy drinks/alchohal
  • No backbiting
  • No more bad puns
  • To spend more personal time

Ohh its a big list of resolutions what people take on 1st day of any year. With a feeling inside, Yes this year would be life changing.

Now its first week of August-2017. Seven months passed, Do You Still Remember??

Where are you on that journey to change your life?  

I have been working with people for seventeen years. Have been training, consulting people on self-development, goal setting and how to build or change any habbit. I also took many resolutions sometimes succeed,many times failed.

Mostly people talk about new year resolutions only till 15th of Jan. More than seventy percent people forget about their resolution in first two weeks.

Why people forget their resolutions  

    There are many reasons why people don’t follow their resolutions. Why to say others think about yourself, you have been commiting yourself for many years. Last year 2016, year before last year 2015, what were your commitments with yourself. And now this year has only five months left, what about your Personal,Professional, Social,Spiritual GOALS.

AFTER MANY YEARS OF MY OWN OBSERVATIONS, LEARNING FROM MANY SUCCESFUL LEADERS, ESSENCE OF MANY BOOKS. 

The one BIG REASON is CHARACTER.

Character is the ability to carry out a resolution long after the excitement of the moment has passed”

Excitement has its expiry soon, but Character has power to change. If you are really inspired enough to take action then character will help to remain in same mindset. People who take resolutions in excitement, they mostly plunge into..

  Lack of sincerity:- They just wish to get something. They talk more about but internally such people accept from the first day that nothing is going to happen. Just to impress someone they buy running shoes to run in the morning, but don’t run. Take membership of gym but don’t exercise consistently. Approx seventy percent people are in this category. People start in excitement, but reward is not in starting but how well you finish. As Aristotle said “We are what we repeatedly do,excellence then is not an act but a habbit.”

Take many resolutions:- Because of heavy expectation and excitement they take many resolutions. Then follow it for first two-three days, after that start failing because of lack of time or any other issue. Then they agree their mind that this is not right time,will do it later. “If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one.” Russian Proverb

Start talking more about their resolutions:- Some people tell everyone whom they know about their new resolutions. People start praising their decision, when you start receiving praise for any task your brain doesn’t understand the task is done or not. It makes you feel happy like you have hit a perfect shot. Then you feel internally happy  like you have achieved. And forget to do something towards accomplishment.

Its hard to say but with love and respect, I would say mostly people make fool to themselves.

They get trapped in “Someday Isle“.. SOMEDAY I will do all those things that I know I need to do to achieve all my goals SOMEDAY.

There is Sunday,Monday,Tuesday,Wednesday,Thursday,Friday,Saturday BUT NO SOMEDAY.

So please commit to yourself.. for your life, for your dreams, for all the achievments you want. Don’t wait for someday. Because of this you have lost another seven months of a year.

After reading my words, there will be two thought in you mind. First, okay so soon 2018 is going to start Now this year I won’t commit such mistakes. I would make another NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS 2018. hahaha

But I suggest, Why to think about New year resolutions. Why not to think NEW LIFE RESOLUTIONS. Your life is important dear friend Its passing every second. Think about a person who is on deathbed of any hospital, he would be thinking that If I had another year or a day of life, I would have done that task. 

You are blessed that you have this day and reading something productive for you life.I hope these words with my feeling would help you to change something.

Please don’t decide many resolutions. Focus on the most important one or two and start taking small actions towards it, from NOW.

I also took some resolutions this year, one of them is blogging. I am doing it, It provide me satisfaction that I am sharing something important with you. Indians believe in “vasudhaiv kutumbkam” its a Sanskrit phrase means the world is a family. I am sharing what I know with my family. You are part of my family.

Living is your right!

Takeaway:-  Commit yourself to take action. Revise your Resolutions. Everyday is important. Start from NOW.

NO YEAR WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE, IF YOU DON’T CHANGE AND ACT.

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Sometimes say YES to NO, If You Really Want To Achieve Something✌

The word NO is probably one of the most difficult words to say after receiving request of people.

People normally want to satisfy everyone. The biggest fear which stop us to say NO is someone will take otherwise.

Why I am writing about this topic:- 

I have seen many people in my surrounding who always want to be available for others. Because of this most of them are living life without any priority and direction.

Zig Ziglar named such people as “Wandering Generalities” means these are people who wander through life without direction. 

Such people are used like 5th tyre of a car. They normally don’t have their own purpose and plan.

If you don’t have your own plan, you will be part of others plan.

You will be mostly free from any important task but busy in some useless things.

The biggest problem of such people is, THEY CAN’T SAY NO.

May be you are thinking.. Should we not help others ? 

No I am not saying to not help others, I help others too. You will be more clear after reading this blog completely.

 Sometimes saying NO to others, Help you to achieve something in life. 

World is divided into two types of people

1.Who have clear goal and commited to it: Suppose today you have decided to complete any important task. like your office project, preparation of any event, teaching your kids as tomorrow they will face their exam.

One of your friends calls you to go for a picnic or movie. What would you say then

NO will be right choice, hope you understood my point.

When your days are not guided by a rich and inspiring vision for your life, then you will not able to say NO.

  Only 3% people have their clear goals, so they say yes to their goals not to other tasks. We are what we repeatedly do. Your life is group of many days. If you use everyday in productive task, It leads towards successful and happy life. But If you don’t focus on your plans and Say YES to any distraction or unwanted unimportant events on and on. It will lead your life to mediocrity.

Achievers always work from a clear sense of priority. Second type of people are..

2.Who don’t have any clear plan for life..

These people gossip more, make fun of others, talk mostly about any other person’s life. Achieve nothing but talk too much. Watch Idiot box 3 to 5 hours per day.  

THEY MOSTLY SAY YES FOR ANY EVENT. whether they do it or not. Usually don’t. Don’t have any agenda of life even not any self image. 

If they are with you, YES TO YOU FOR ANYTHING.

If they are with others, YES TO OTHERS FOR ANYTHING.

There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all.

  If you wanna to become champion in Cricket then say NO to playing cards.

So saying NO to any task which doesn’t match to your life priorities, is YES to your success and dreams.

How to say NO to others: 

  • Learn to Say NO gracefully: As No is hard to say, Normally people take otherwise. You must say it gracefully and with positive mood. 
  • Tell the truth: Sometimes just to make someone happy, If you say yes and internally you know that you won’t be able to do what you said. This will make your image more negative. 
  • Must tell reason: Whenever say No to anyone, talk gracefully and define properly why you are not able to do that particular task or help Like..I have some urgent work which I am to complete in next few days, not able to join you today. Hopefully I would join you later. 

If any specific NO, you want to say to anyone. Use these 3 tips, It works.

Positive impact on your life.. As you start saying NO there will be many positive changes in your life.

Clear Image: This will make your image very clear that you are Man of words. Your Yes and No will have equal importance.

More time to complete your important works: You will be able to focus more on your priorties and this will lead towards happy succesful and balanced life.

You have a built in system that tunes out what not important to you. By saying NO you would be tune in important tasks only.

So say NO

 To Distraction, To Negativity, To Toxic People, to Any useless activity, to waste of time. 

I hope this blog would help to you live more clear life. What lesson you learnt, which topic you liked most? 

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Connect Yourself,Before Connecting The World

  • You reach your office/workplace on time.
  • You often attend calls,reply mails on time.
  • Socially you are very active.
  • You get all important tasks done of your family and friends.
  • You get your bills paid on time.
  • You think mostly to become rich and happy.

I know all above your work you do on time or try your level best to do it.

Another CHECKLIST..

  • Do you meditate/Yoga daily on time?
  • Do you take care of your health properly?
  • Do you have enough sleep?
  • Do you rest? (mental and physical)
  • Do you attend any self-development programme?
  • Do you have time to read any book of your choice?
  • Do you spend quality time with your family and friends? 
  • Do you skip you breakfast/lunch often ?
  • Do you check your mobile in every 5-10 min ?

Ohh I asked too many questions, but think seriously. No need to answer to impress others or immediatly thinking about any strong excuse.

It needs the best version of you, to lead your life.

As your mobile battery discharged daily, then you connect/ plug it in and leave for sometime. Same you need to do with yourself. As you connect your mobile to get charged. In same way…

Connect yourself, Before connecting the world.”

      HOW TO CONNECT TO SELF

The best time to connect yourself is morning, first hour as you wake up is best hour of the day.

“If you invest first hour of the day properly, you will get maximum output from next 23 hours”

To become in charge of your inner and outer life, you have to invest that one hour in yourself. YOU CAN’T TAKE INTEREST BEFORE MAKING INVESTMENT.

The biggest achievment of life is, The person you become. If you want more, then you must become more.

Now a days, we are able to connect to the world in minutes. But what about yourself. Running so many thoughts in mind round the clock. I was also suffering from all this then I adopted a routine with objective of connecting self first before world. Its an inspiration which I receive from many successful leaders, books and blogs. 

 How to invest first hour of the day, to connect self:- 

The things which I am sharing, It seems small-small tasks and You might know all this but lets revise it and implement from now.

  • Take a glass of water:  Start your day with a glass of water better it should be lukewarm, which activate many good engymes and there are immense benefits of it. 
  • Sit in silence and meditate: You must spend first 20 min in meditation. Sit in solitude and there are many ways of meditation search in youtube or follow any expert in it. I do it with om sound or flute music. Sometimes I do Release meditation technique by Brendon Burchurd. Whatever style you do but mediation is must for your mind. JUST 20 MIN FOCUS ON YOUR BREATH AND NOTHINGELSE. 
  • Read books for 15-20 min: Selection of books matters, read something positive and productive. After meditation your mind become fully active and what thoughts you feed in that moment. That define and decide your destiny. I read at least any book or blog every morning for few months. Sometimes I miss it but start again. I can’t express the impact of it in words. All Leaders are Readers.
  • Read Your Goals 5 min: What are the plans for today It can be decided only when you clear goals of life. Whatever your goals are like loosing weight, raising your income, learning any new skill, any professional social spiritual  aim. When you revise your goals in morning it decide exactly where you should spend time in next hours. It is not enough to be busy,so are the ants. The question is what are you so busy about..Thoreau.  Now you are mentally ready but for balance life your mind and body must be in harmony.
  • Exercise 15-20 min: THOSE WHO DON’T MAKE TIME FOR EXERCISE MUST EVENTUALLY MAKE TIME FOR ILLNESS. For exercise you need not to go gym you can start from home. I do Streching, push ups, Surya Namskar etc. Morning exercise release endorphins, you feel exhilarated. One study of 18000 Harvard alumni found that every hour spend on exercise, Added three hours to the participants life.
  • Take healthy breakfast: As meditation is essential for your mind, healthy breakfast is must for your body. Normally you skip your first meal because of lack of time. Please wake up 2 hours before your first appointment. Health experts strongly recommend healthy food in next two hours as you wake up. 

So this is investment of your first hour which returns are immense. Now you are fully ready to use your day and face anything strongly.

Some things to avoid/stop in this golden hour: 

 Distraction is the major problem of todays world. To take the maximum benefits of this one hour schedule. 

As I requested you and your intention is to connect yourself before connecting the world.

You must swith off your mobile. I strongly suggest to not check any news feed facebook whatsapp. If you do it in morning so many unwanted thoughts enter into you mind and would not be able to invest that one hour properly. I have scheduled time to check this all. 

Don’t read Newspaper,Don’t watch Idiot box. Specially in morning.

“You can’t fill fresh water in a bucket which is full of garbage”

In place of watching TV, talk to your kids and any your loved ones. Talk about any good moment. Plan your day.

                Set your priorities and commit 

Mostly everybody known of these morning routines but doing is more important than knowing. So by reading this “You will feel to do this someday” there is no someday in weekdays. So don’t wait for any special day to start. Start from where you are. 

You can’t live your dream life, without self-discipline, self-control. 

So commit to connect yourself before connecting the world. Be ready to see a different you. 
Living is your right! 

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      Love Yourself, You Are Important..

      Feeling Important is one of very strong crave of any human.

      But most of the people, usually feel low, upset, unsatisfied,neglected all the time.

      The chief objective of life is inner happiness and it comes when you feel blessed,loved and important.

      I know the pain because I suffered through that period in my life when I was not feeling valuable.

      Than I came to know..

      “PEOPLE VALUE YOU,WHEN YOU VALUE YOURSELF” 

      Few years back,Internally i was feeling very low. Not able to face  people. Was hesitating to go any party and interacting with strangers.

      My First Day when I felt I am important for this world..

      I started a part time job of teaching in a college. Was scared that will I be able to do it properly. But good moment came..after my few classes my students came to me and said Sir,you are special.

       I received first words of praise. It was one of greatest moment. Then I started falling in love with me.

      When you do something special you feel valuable. This Raise your Self-esteem. And High Self-esteemed person are always full of love for them and others.

      What are the reasons, which make you feel that you aren’t special..

      •  Since childhood people mostly focus on your faults but not on you specialities. If you are good in drawing, there will be less who encourage you but many tell you. You are not good in swimming.
      • Family even Parents start comparing their two kids with one another. 

      A single sentence from a Parent creates believe system of a child.

      You Are Wrong, You are not good in maths, you don’t know how to behave with guests. can’t count that how many sentences are there which makes a child making his decision that I am not important, not good enough.

      Feeling low, it affects you

      When You Feel Less Important.. It seems on your body language first and on your all span of life. You become a low self-esteem person. Full of negativity and self-respect.

      How to check that you feel unimportant..check yourself

      • Low Self-esteem..
      • Lack of self confidence
      • Comparing with others
      • Loosing temper often 
      • Addicted to addiction
      • Need Approval of others
      • Less or No decision making ability

      Nobody Value You,If You Don’t.

      All Your Achievements, whether its personal or professional depends on The Person You Become.

      Love,High Values, Self-Esteem These are the essentials of your personality. 

      Without it you can’t live life with mindfullness and satisfaction which are the chief objective of any human.

      How You Can Become A Person, Who Love Himself/Herself and Feel High Self-Esteem.

      I have been using these ideas for years and many successful people do.

      Here are the seven tips

      1. Repeat These Sentences every morning 25 times.. Sit in solitude,close your eyes and say it loudly (which your ears can listen).

      am the best.

      I love myself.

      Do it with feeling. Focus on these words when you repeat it. It costs nothing but benefits are huge. I have been doing it for many years. Try it for a week regularily and feel the change inside.

      2. Healthy food and positive thoughts: A perfect balanced life is tough if your body and mind are not in harmony. 

      When mind is fully active and junk free, it produce positivity peace happiness. Everything is inside. So feed your mind by reading books, blogs, taking part in seminars. Meditation is like medicine it treats your mind.

      Same way your body needs healthy food. Take control of your diet and avoid anything which is harmful.

      3. Learn new skills: Learn new skills every year. Learning something new make you feel valuable and confident. 

      People may not believe what you talk but they appreciate if you do. Now a days I am learning swimming and have started blogging. Whats your Takeaway. If not any decide it now.

      Learn something what you love to do or learn something which add value to your current profession. You will become more productive and inevitable in your workplace.

      4. Spend more time with your loved ones: Spending time with your family friends and all those whom you care energise you. Switch off mobile TV or any distraction. We are human first. 

      I have seen many people who always talk that family is first but when they reach home they don’t talk to their family, just watch idiot box.

      5. Don’t complain, don’t explain:- Complaining others is so easy task and its injurious to your mental health and social values.

      If someone backbite about you often, don’t explain. Don’t waste time and energy on explanation. Focus on your important tasks. Add value to your life. 

      People change their opinion about you as per their interest,need,intention. So don’t care much. Just be busy in loving to loved ones, not hating to anyone.

      6. Be greatful.. Practice being greatful for everything that life has blessed you with. Mostly the cause of dissatisfaction in life is we think what we don’t have. The major issue what others have. Thinking and focusing too much on your weak side make you more fed up. 

      If you have three pennies first be grateful for it, then try to earn three million. Oprah winfrey

      7. Stop regreting : We are human commiting mistakes is our nature. Nobody is perfect in this world. Don’t regret of any moment of life. Keep moving.

      Regreting all the time is cause of depression, heart disease and many other disorders. The best way to avoid regretting is admit your fault. Learn lesson from it and commit to not repeat it again.

      Hope these seven tips would help you to make you feel loved, blessed, valuable.

      Living is your right!

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        How To Make Your Married Life Full Of Love And Compatibility

        MEN AND WOMEN ARE TWO HALVES, WHEN THEY MEET “IT BECOME A COMPLETE LIFE.”

        First of all, I admire you as You are thinking to Make Your Married Life More Exciting and Full Of Love.

        ●It Shows That You Want More From Your Married Life.

        ● It Shows That You Want Harmony In Your Relationship.

        According To Psychologist Sydney Jourard, Most Of Your Joy In Life Come From Your Happy Relationship With Other People And Most Of Your Problems In Life Come From Unhappy Relationships With Them.

        Whether You Are A Married Couple or Dating Couple Ready To Get Married.

        Living The Best Married Life Is A Dream Of Every Couple.

        So I Welcome You To My Blog. Read It Complete And With Full Attention. This Will Help You.

         I Am Living My Dream Married Life For Fourteen Years, Yesterday 21st June was My 14th Anniversary.

         And I Thought To Share A Blog On Marriage and Married Life To Share My Knowledge And Experience To This World.

        But My Conjugal Life Was NOT ALWAYS PERFECT. Initially It Was Full Of Ups And Down, Misunderstandings And Lots Of Issues We Faced. 

        Generally, We Were Facing Hard Times. Sometimes Even A Wet Towel On Bed Became Issue Of Fighting..Hahaha

        Then I Realised, What Big Mistake I Was Doing. Expecting From My Spouse But Not Realising My Faults. Normally Noone Love To Find Own Mistakes.

        I Was Focused More Towards My Career, Was Not Able To Spend Quality Time And Making The Best Of My Married Life.Misunderstandings Were Taking Place In Our Relationship.

        Then I Started Feeling, NO SUCCESS IN PUBLIC LIFE CAN COMPENSATE FOR FAILURE IN THE HOME. 

        Then I Learnt And Read Blogs Books And Consulted Some Happy Married Couples.

        All Successful People Are Readers. I Admire You As You Are Reading This Blog. Means You Are On Right Path. Keep Reading..

        Then I left Doing Few Things Which Were My Faults And Started Doing What Can Make My Conjugal Life In Harmony And Giving My Spouse The Best Of Mine. 

        Your Personal Relationship Should Take Precedence Over Everything Else- Brian Tracy

        By Following Small Changes I Found My Married Life As I Was Dreaming.

        Then I Thought To Share It With You And All People Like Me And You. To Benefit Them As I Believe To Learn From Others And Share To Others.

        So I Am Sharing The Essence Of My Research,Reading, Personal Experience, Interviewed And Observed Many Couples

        7 Simple Solutions For Making The Best Married Life.. 


        1. LOVE : The First And Most Important Thing In Life Is LOVE. 

        The Joy Of Loving Relationship Is Perhaps The Most Wonderful Thing That A Man And Woman Can Experience.

        The More You Love Your Spouse, The More You Will Be Loved In Response.

        Love Means Just Not Living Together In A Home. And Wishing Anniversary And Birthday As We Wish To Every Formal Relationship.

        Relationship Of A Husband And Wife Is More Personal.

        Checklist To Know How Much You Are In Love With Your Spouse?

        Quality Time:- If I Have To Define Love In One Word That Will Be How Much Time You Spend Together. With Undivided Attention.

        You Must Go For Morning or Evening Walk, Dinner, Holiday Trip, Long Drive Or Any Other Way. With Intention To Spent Time With Your Spouse. 

        Talk and Listen :-  Do You Talk To Your Spouse About Each-Other. Not About Any Other Matter, Avoid Criticism and Badmouthing.

        Most Of The Couples After Three Years Of Marriage Don’t Talk Much And If They Talk, It Normally Become An Argument Only.

        It Doesn’t Matter That Its A Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage. But As Time Passes  Couples Leave Spending Personal Time Together. 

        Rarely Talk and Listen Without Any Distraction.

        You Must Talk To Your Spouse With Heart Full Of Love. Pay Attention When He or She Says Something. 

        Listening With Full Attention Make Relationship Bond Stronger.
        Eye Contact:- Whenever Talk To Your Spouse Maintain Eye Contact. Look Into Eyes Of His/Her. It Helps To Exchange Feelings. Sometimes You May Not Be Able To Express Your Feelings By Words But Your Eyes Express More Than Your Words.

        2. PRAISE:- Praise Is The Need Of Every Living Human. Little Children Cry For It, Grown Men Die For It.

        When You Praise Your Spouse For Any Specific Task You Liked. It Inspire Him/Her To It In More Better Way. 

        One Of The Purposes Of Marriage And Intimate Relationship Is To Give You The Opportunity To Evolve And Grow To Your Full Capacity.

        Ken Blanchard, Author Of The One Minute Manager Recommends,” The Use Of ONE MINUTE PRAISING Throughout The Day.

        “Catch Your Spouse When He/She Is Doing Something Right”

        Praise Should Be Immediate. Sooner The Praise, Greater The Impact.

        Praise Helps Your Spouse To Feel Of High Valued Person. It Raise Your Spouse Self-esteem. 

        Make A Promise Today To Search A Reason To Praise. This Will Make Feel Your Spouse That He/She Is Important In Your Life.

        3. UNDERSTANDING:- Your Spouse Is An Individual, With Unique Characteristics That Makes Him or Her Different From All Others People. 

        Understanding Means:- “Standing Under The Situation Of  That Person.”

        Your Spouse May Have Different Ideas,Desires,Tastes And Expectations. 

        I Have Seen Couple Fighting On Icecream Flavours That Why Don’t You Like This ??

        And Who Can Forget That Wet Towel On The Bed😃

        WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY:-

        Don’t Take Any Decision And Don’t Say Anything To Your Spouse Which Can Deeply Hurt Him or Her.Take Time To React/Respond:- First Listen The Matter, Take Time To Think, Talk About The Solution.

        • The Moment You Become Angry And Upset, Your Neocortex Or THINKING BRAIN SHUTS DOWN.

        You Must Have A Heartfelt Determination To Make The Best Of Married Life, Not To Win An Argument.

        Don’t Try To Make Your Spouse, Same Like You. 

         You love Him or Her because Something Special Which He or She HAS.

        4.BE READY TO CHANGE:-  The Day You Tie The Knot With Your Spouse, Keep A Thought In Your Mind. 

        Every Marriage Is A Work In Progress. 

        As Time Passes, The Nature Of You And Your Spouse Change In Some Manners. Its Natural And Normal. Things Which You Like Most In Your 20s You May Not Like It In Your 30s.

        You Must Be Willing To Change In Response To Changing Circumstances. You Need To Be Prepared To Change With Age,Careers,Financial Circumstances,Health.

        Flexibility Is Absolutely Essential To A Long,Happy Marriage.

        5. REPEAT THESE WORDS OFTEN:- 

        Its My Fault “I Am Feeling Sorry.”

        Your Presence Make Me Feel Complete “Thank You”

        You Are The Most Important In My Life. Without You I Am Not Complete.

        These Are The Words Which Are Essentials For Any Married Couple Or You Can Say It Your Own Words With Same Feelings.

        You Should Do Every Possible Effort To Build And Maintain A Loving Relationship.

        It Needs To Say “Sorry” Whenever You Hurt Your Spouse. People Don’t Say Sorry Because They Feel “I Can’t Be Wrong”. Remember Nobody Is Perfect.

        You Objective Is To Live Your Dream Married Life. You Both Are Two Halves, You Together Make A Whole.

        Don’t Dwell On Mistakes, Focus To Live In Harmony.

        6. TAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO SERVICE STATION:-

         You Often Take Your Car To Service Station, To Maintain It And Keep Its Performance Well.

        Whether You Try Level Best To Live In Harmony But Life Is Full Of Unexpected Events.

         Your Relationship Is Like A Car. Lots Of Garbage Take Place In. If Its Not Serviced In Time It Can Be Cause To Big Issues.

        How To Service Your Relation:- 

        Never Let Past Experience To Be Repeated In Present Conversation.

        You And Your Spouse Should Go In Solitude. And With Intention To Fill More Life In Your Relation.

        Without Any Complain or Criticism. Ask Few Questions To Your Spouse.

        • Is There Anything That I Am Doing That You Would Like Me To Do MORE OF ?
        • Is There Anything That I Am Doing That You Would Like Me To Do Less Of ?
        • Is There Anything That You Would Like Me To Start Doing That I Am Not Doing Today ?
        • Is There Anything That I Am Doing That You Would Like Me To Stop Doing Altogether ?

        Ask These Question And Both Try Your Level Best To Do It And Make Your Married Life Filled With Joy And Happiness.

        In Place Of Thinking What You Want, Think What You Both Want.
        7. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY:-  Nobody Likes and Can’t Respect To A Person Who Is Not Responsible. Who Always Complain Others. 

        What Kind Of Responsibilities You Need To Take:- 

        Financial :- Money Plays Major Role In Your Married Life. You Can’t Avoid This Fact. 

        Suppose You Don’t Have Enough Money To Run Your Life And Not Taking Enough Actions To Earn Money. 

        Can You Think About Harmony In Relationship ? 

        It Needs WORK LIFE BALANCE.

        Family:- You Both Have To Take Family Responsibility With Full Commitment And Encourage Each Other. Children , In-Laws, Society Whatever Is To Maintain It Needs Your Togetherness.

        Don’t Complain Each Other, Remember You Both Are Two Halves To Make A Whole.

        Thanks For Reading..

        I Hope This Blog Would Help You.

        Please Comment, Which Point You Liked Most??

         If You Feel Its Valuable Like And Share To Others, To Make Their Married Life More Exciting. 

        I WILL KEEP BLOGING ON MARRIED LIFE. 

        LIVE LIFE FULLY..

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        WITH LOVE.. 

        Durgesh Tripathi